Neil and the Art of Motorcycle Recovery

Two posts in one day! (And it’s been way more than a week I’ve been trying to find the time to get this together!)

weddingcake.jpgIt’s been suggested, since our wedding anniversary, that we post some wedding photos. Ordinarily I would feel a bit weird about sticking them on the internet, but it got me thinking that there are a lot of people who read this blog who’ve only met us since the onset of Neil’s diagnosis.

I don’t feel any of the photos we’ve just re-vamped the website with show off my handsome husband! So I’ve put together some photos which I think best capture Neil during my time with him. They’re sort of in chronological order.


I’ve tried not to embarrass him… apart from the one in the swimming pool… personally, the beard was always fine by me, but I realise this may come as a shock to some of you… and yes, we know about the Chuck Norris similarity. 


In fact, Neil claims to have had many professions before becoming an architect. Firstly, I believe he was a cowboy, then a brief spell as a spaceman before becoming a wizard, so you can understand he’s very proud of getting out of the rut that was architect and graduating into a martial arts legend… at least for the winter while he needed the facial fluff for warmth.

I’ve also realised from going through all our photos that there’s hardly any of the two of us, so if anyone has any, would you share them with me!

The other memory that seems to be poorly represented is Neil on his motorbike. He used to commute to work on his 900cc Triumph Tridant Sprint. I always meant to get a picture of him dressed up in his gear. Then, around February, after diagnosis, someone stole the bike. It wasn’t just something that could be replaced by an insurance claim. Every evening Oscar and I used to watch for the gate opening and Neil driving his bike in the drive. Ironically, my heart was in my mouth every day till I knew he was home safe and off that bike! I loved watching the look of recognition on Oscar’s face when his daddy took off his crash helmet.


When the police came to the door to tell us the bike had miraculously been recovered in one piece, I made Neil go and have his photo taken on it, which is this one here. He had to take a taxi, he already couldn’t drive. If you know what you’re looking for, his ‘Foot-Up’ is visible in his shoelaces. It’s not the picture I have in my head and that I wanted for Oscar.  If anyone does happen to have a better photo please, please pass it on.

I know there’s a wheelchair in the last two photos, but he’s still the same person, and I like the photos so pre or post diagnosis, it’s all the same to me, and I’m just as proud of him, if not even more so. x

birthdayneil.jpgI had been trying to put a post on the Plattitude with earlier pictures of Neil since the first newspaper article in the Yorkshire Post. I had been feeling that the image of a man wearing a ventilator mask would be accepted as Neil and if I didn’t show some pictures of him when he was happy and healthy, then the real impact of the disease wouldn’t be felt.

The final picture of Neil smiling in the wheelchair with a beer in his hand was taken at his birthday in mid July. The Yorkshire Post article was published on December 3rd, less than four months later. – Louise (2013)

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Comments on Louise’s original blog post:

Lisa Stefanski
December 19, 2008 at 9:42 am
What beautiful pictures..and amazing memories for you and all of us!
Thankyou for putting these on the website.

Lots of love, Lula & Rick x

nicky tait
December 19, 2008 at 12:03 pm
what a truly amazing couple you inspiration to everybody.without even knowing you,i admire the wonderful family that you are.
good luck in everything you do,and enjoy every single second.
nicky tait.xx

Rickster Stefanski
December 19, 2008 at 12:22 pm
Mate I am sure I have a few pics hiding away; I shall dig them out over the holidays and forward them to you.

Great pics of you guys, you really are a bit of a handsome old devil you know….

Love you mate

R x

Aunty Pau’s & Uncle Mel
December 19, 2008 at 12:49 pm
Brilliant pictures – God Oscar is going to be so gorgeous when he grows up. Of course Louise has forgotten to put on the early photos of your real first jobs i.e. practicing egyptian mummy and model for the best hat for easter parade! See photos taken by his Dad. Must be able to scan those in – please!!

Love aunty pau’s xxxx

Victoria Holdsworth
December 19, 2008 at 6:24 pm
The bike is definately a step up from that curry delivery mobile datsun you had for your first car – and to top it off you put flames up the side of it! hehe

December 19, 2008 at 10:00 pm
wow your posts normally get me going but this one was a real wallop! Hope the people on the train next to me don’t mind the tears. Awesome pictures for an ugly bastard! I always said it was a good job oz looks like his mum:)

Love you guy!

Cate Prescott
December 23, 2008 at 12:11 am
Hi Lou,

Its Cate as in Cate, Ellie’s mum from Friday waterbabies at the Swallow Hotel.

Just seen you on the telly – Look North – which was brill as I hadnt remembered your surname to be able to get in touch.

The photos on the blog are beautiful!, how much does Oscar look like his daddy in those pictures!

Still only around the corner so if you ever fancy that coffee with or without our lovely rugrats, let me know – 07501345969. Now I’ve found you I’ll keep logging on for news…thinking of you lovely, have a very special Christmas xxx

December 23, 2008 at 8:55 am
Thanks for sharing the pictures…Neil, you’re so brave, always with a smile on your face! I still have a few from the band days at the the Ivy House and Kings Rd…let me know where I can post them to…
Much love, thinking of you during the festive season!

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